Different people grieve in different ways and times. There is no specific time frame for grieving some it is months others years but what you need to understand healing happens gradually. The loss of a child is very difficult and very hard at times to get over. When grieving there are some stages that we go through like denial, anger,bargaining,depression and finally acceptance. If you have ever been in one of these stages during your loss then it is natural, if you haven’t remember you do not need to go through these stages for you to heal.
Shock,denial hoping that it is all a lie is normal,when I lost my mother I kept walking into her room hoping to see her,I know this might sound weird but I used to call her cellphone number hoping she would pick up. Till to date i have never come to terms with my mothers demise.You may find yourself feeling empty inside,lost hope and crying a lot and I always encourage let your emotions out,cry it all and let the pain out.
At times you find yourself with the feeling of guilt, wondering what you would have said,done before the demise or maybe prevented your loss. All this feelings are normal and the stages at times you will have to go through. During this time you need your friends and family.Turn to them for support and comfort,bring them closer to you instead of pulling far from them. You will need their shoulders to cry on and also help you with funeral arrangements.
You can also find solace through spiritual activities that you find meaningful. You can pray,go to church,sing praise and worship songs all these which offers peace to your soul. Still you might doubt or see no meaning of this especially during your loss,thinking God is not there. God is there and with you in your tough time. You can go visit a clergy when you have this feelings.
Sometimes handling grief can be very difficult even when you have family and friends around. It is good if you could join a support group, bereavement groups where you could share your feelings and thoughts with people who are going through the same thing as you. Sometimes your grief can be too much to bear, you could see a therapist or grief counselor to help you with your emotions. You also need to take good care of yourself, you need to be strong both physically and emotionally during this time as stress could deplete your emotional and energy reserves.
Losing a child can never go away but do not let this take toll on your life. As time goes by these feelings should become less intense as you accept your loss and start moving forward. If you grief gets worse that you may fall into depression then you might be going through a condition called complicated grief and is best you seek help.